Showering


#41

Hi there , my name is Tom. I’ve been sic for more than 25 years. Most of them were because off being MISDIOGNOSED ! Finally I felt clear enough to search the web and found that I have M.E./ CFS or S.E.I.D. Now I have different levels of difficulty. Basically I’m ALLWAYS tired , in pain and my brain isn’t always on point .
I’m a disabled auto tech. I had to stop working about 7 years ago.
Any way I can definitely emphasize with your situation . I used to take a shower at least once a day. Now sometimes my wife has to either help me get out of the bathtub or completely wash me .other days I appear " normal " .even still on those good days a simple shower is way to much. I can’t believe that I go so long w/out a wash . Its NOT because of depression. Anyone with this type of problem would be a little depressed BECAUSE of the illness makes me change my normal ways .
Anyway, obviously now I take more baths now . But that’s only sometimes. It is a little bit disgusting but it is what it is .
Keep up the good fight


#42

I have due to becoming disabled. Don’t be so hard on yourself.


#43

@Samantha, try washing your hair in the kitchen sink. I’ve done it myself at times.


#44

Sounds like depression. I have been there, but it would help your body out by getting chair that you can sit down and use a handheld shower head.

I had to get a handicapped unit with a built in seat with a handheld shower head. Now when I have to stand to take of those hard reach areas, I pray to God to help me so my knee won’t give out causing me to fall. So far, so good.


#45

You are not alone…I struggle with this too. Have ever since I can remember. . My depression combined with joint pain and back pain from my Spina Bifida diagnosis and being overweight makes things hell.


#46

I went through the same thing for a few years. I’m not sure what it is but I shower now.


#47

Is it possible till you feel more secure that you if you have on to take a bath and wash your hair in the kitchen sink


#48

I used to take a shower all the time. Now I don’t like to take a shower. It feels good after but it is so hard to get in. I don’t know why, maybe depression. You are not alone.


#49

Just found this community health chat. Been reading a number of entries. I’m feeling th same way. I can’t get myself into th shower. Have grab bars, a shower chair. All kinds of help aids. But can’t get myself to take my clothes off & get in. I live alone, have osteoarthritis, neuropathy, and etc,etc, etc. Th upper body gets washed by standing at th sink, lower body too. I don’t know why I’m afraid to get naked & climb in. It feels so good wen I do get there. The chronic pain is depressing. I sometimes miss Dr appts because of anxiety. Been taking methotrexate, just started Humira. I gess I’m rambling. I need to talk sometimes. Can’t hold th fone any longer, carpal tunnel. Thanks for listening. Maybe next time I’ll write my thoughts better. Used to be a neat nik. Now I can’t vacuum it hurts the back too much. My hands hurt so bad I can’t crochet any more. Agin thanks for being there.


#50

Sounds like you may want to consider counseling. It can be depressing when convalescing, especially when pain is involved. Maybe a home health care worker to help you as well.


#51

I have the same problem. As embarrassing as it is, sometimes I can’t remember when I showered. I have actually missed Doctor appointments because the extreme exhaustion that plagued me keeps me from getting ready. I’m just too tired to shower, get dressed, and do my hair. I also have severe arthritis, fibromyalgia, migraines, Sarcoidosis, depression , severe anxiety, and Antiphospholipid syndrome ( a blood clotting disorder-oops spelled it wrong). I am on Abilify and Effexor. I don’t feel depressed, just kinda frozen. My father and brother are both in hospice and expected to die at any time. I’m actually dealing with it amazingly well. I need a new psych. & therapist, but that’s another whole bag o worms!!


#52

Totally understand. I can’t push myself to get a shower because it wears me out.


#53

That’s why you share on here what’s going wrong and I’m sure others can relate, I can. If you want to chat I’m here…take care!


#54

That’s a lot of responsibility that was put on you to get your mom showered. I see why you have the added anxiety taking a shower…I hope that you are able to get through this and hopefully back to showering more…take care


#55

I AM ALSO like that. I have


#56

I have the same problem while getting into and out of the tub. I have a shower/ bath chair so that helps, but standing up makes me very shaky.


#57

Hi! I have the same problem with taking a shower, which, began when I fell in the shower hitting my back & head with the facet, making me stuck in the tub. 911 was called, paramedics & firemen showed up & it took 4 of them to get me up - I ended up in the hospital, lucky me, I didn’t break anything. That was the beginning of my issues with balance.
I was falling often until I had my right knee replaced and learn to walk, again. I’m still having some issues, now, with my left knee & hips. I have osteoarthritis throughout my body.
Getting into the bath can be frightening & at times still is too much for me. I don’t know if you have one of those shower benches. I think they are great & without it, getting into the shower would have been impossible.
You might want to talk to your doctor about your issues with the shower & they can help you by either pointing you in the right direction or prescribing you one of those bench’s or to a physical therapist who can help. I’ve had several physical therapists all have been very good & extremely helpful.
I hope this helps - oh, I forget to say that, yes, I have been dealing with dealing with depression and PTSD for years, which doesn’t help.
Good luck with the shower - I know it will get easier & you’ll be back to your usual clean self.
Leslie


#58

I have gone through times that it’s been harrdfo me to shower. When I was younger we took baths onc a lot week in a wash tub. Th re were three of us girls. Always wished you wouldn’t be last. When we got a tub inside the bathroom we took one once a week and washed our hair under the same no faucet twice a week and it once in the bathtub.
As an adult I continued with the routine unl as I had been working? then I took one nightly.
We always took sponge baths in between baths. Remember


#59

I have to force myself to shower. What I do is plan my showers. The day or night before I say "tomorrow morning I’ll shower after I do my laundry or dishes etc. I have shower bars all around and use a soft spray. Otherwise it may not get done. I wish you the best. Pain does make daily living quite the challenge.


#60

Yes I have been there. Sometimes I think it is I am afraid of falling. But I also have been very depressed due to my disability