Showering


#21

I have the same problem about showering. Not physically. I can go from days to sometimes weeks before taking a shower. I also have body issues specially since I had two stroke’s years ago. I hate my bathroom has mirrors everywhere where I feel I see my ( ugliness) . I know no one thinks I am ugly but that is how I see myself.


#22

I find that trying to keep a schedule really helps. Also may be buying some calming herbal body washes and making it an indulgence as well as self care promise.


#23

Oh I also wanted to add that realizing that even though our moods limit us, our bodies are capable. Others may not have that. Seeing your physical ability as a motivator. Visualize how great you will feel.


#24

Thank u so much gammy. I did something - except it was after u freaked out. I had a “toolbox” if tools that would help with the pain anxiety n depression. First level was to cut off any unnecessary tasks. Then I retreated into my recliner, used icy hot in my legs (nueropathy), took xynAx and/or Lyrica, shit the curtsins,.turned the phone off, went to the bathroom inly when I absolutely had to …n then a bunch more. But I love the spoon idea. I only have 3-4 hrs a day when I can stand the pain n then I have to baby myself or it will be overwhelming. I’m going to look into the spoon thing. I guess I do it to some extent now. If I have to get groceries I won’t clean the house the same day- both are physical n willake the pain worse. I do the same with mental tasks. Thank u so much.


#25

Try a ten minute shower and see if that helps. Be kind to you.
Hugs and love.


#26

Gammy I just read the story of the spoon therapy n it made me cry- n nothing makes me cry. It has been so hard since I developed the pain problem 12 years ago to explain why I can’t do anyting- not anything more. It why I can’t talk on the phone or go out to lunch or clean the house unless I plan for it. My house used to be so clean . Now I just accept it because there is nothing I can do about it most days. Thank u so much I sent the think to 11 of my friends n family. Especially my sister who keeps telling me about jobs she’s heard about. While I crazily scream I couldn’t go to the bathroom for five hours yesterday but u think I can get a job? Like I’m laying on the couch drinking margaritas. Thank u so much you’ve helped me feel less alone- other people feel the same way I do. If u ever need anything let me know. N that thing I wrote about the toolbox- it helps u recover when uve used up to many spoons. Everyone’s toolbox is different n it doesn’t make me have more spoons but it stops me from paniacing n it gives me a sense if control when the pain- or depression I guess has control. Thank u so much n merry Christmas.


#27

I get these really nice cleanse cloths from my insurance. U can probay buy them at the store. They have soap on that u don’t have to rinse off that doesn’t dry ur skin. Still it is hard for me to accept that at the age of 47 I can’t shower myself everyday. Inly the people living with me know that I’m too embarrassed. I cut off my ling hair because it looked so bad dirty


#28

Mimi My mom just died in Jan - she was 75 which is not old. She was the same funny living giving person she was at 40. Anyway she spent get entire life loathing how she liokef- we didn’t eat out as kids go to the beach Soo many things. As she was dying her heart was failing - she gained 40lbs in water judt in her stomach hips n thighs- n she was still feeling horrible be ause she was fat. Please please stop wasting your time thinking u are ugly. Hiwy mom hated her body lead to all of me n my siblings having body issues n it hurt sooo bad to have someone I love feel that bad all the time about themselves. However since I was raised with my mom I had the same issues even when I was 49ibs under weight. I found a truck that worked for me. I agined a brick wall- strong made out of thick stones n I shoved that feeling n thought behind the wall. When I started feeling that way - I picture showing it back over n repairing the crack it had slipped through. In the beginning I imagined how it felt liked smelled anyting-to not think the bad thought. Now I can just think of the wall n I stop thinking of the bad thought. It might sound crazy but it has worked for me. My daughter was in 80mg of Prednisone at 5 n I taught the trick to her- but she imagoned it buried n covered with grass. That is how she comes with things she can’t handle or that she can’t deal with right away. I haven’t passed my hatred of my body to my 2 children- they didn’t even know I felt that way till their early 20s. I hope this helps u. I wish my mother had not hurt so badly n I’ll say a prayer for u tonight that u can stop


#29

@Amy47 You are very welcome! While I am not the author of the spoon theory, I am very glad to know that sharing it here has helped someone! Knowing I have in some way been instrumental in helping to make someone’s day a little easier helps me immensely with my depression. Thank you for that gift in return. Merry Christmas to you as well. It can be such a busy time. Hopefully, the spoon theory can help us all get through it with minimal pain, and maximum peace and joy!


#30

There’s dry shampoo you might be able to purchase at Sally’s beauty supply if you can’t get into the shower on a daily basis. Call first if you don’t want to take a waisted trip. Or possibly order on line on ruff to get out kind of days. Good luck with that. :)


#31

Sometimes I take 2 or 3 in one day. Other times I go nearly a week. I’m always in pain and alone, with only a few friends on social media to chat with. I usually feel better after a shower but sometimes just too lonely and depressed to do it.


#32

Everyday


#33

My depression keeps me from wanting to shower but my mom makes me at least once a week. I haven’t shaved my legs in at least 9 months and no motivation to do it. Taking a shower makes me so tired so I avoid it at all cost.


#34

I also have the same problem. I just don’t have the desire to do anything. I close myself up in my bedroom. Only come out if I have to.


#35

I was in an abusive relationship, and was beaten black and blue and bloody while in the bath. I thought for the longest time that was the reason I had to force myself to take a shower; it is so nice to see that I’m not alone in this.


#36

I do at times. Now I try to take showers at nights when I am more relax so I dont have to worry about it in the morning. I have done for days and was not proud of my self. But sometimes I am just so sad. Try taking them at night.


#37

Yes I too just can’t …just get in the shower!! Love it when I do…feel better…look better…yet…no shower!!


#38

I think a bath chair would help you. So please give it a try.


#39

I feel that not wanting to take a shower is silly but I just can’t make myself do it. I used to take a shower every day when I was working and after retirement I dropped to ever other day.
I am 70 now and once a week seems to be about the normal. I try to blame it on my long hair. I wash it every time I shower.
I have just moved from California to Pennsylvania and I say it’s too cold. Not true I have a hairdryer.
I hope we get better as life continues to try to get us down let’s take our strength and say " today I will get up and take that shower and be happy that I did",


#40

I have always had trouble going to sleep. I use over the counter meds but they give me bad headaches. My doctor will not prescribe me anything to help me sleep.