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I have noticed that my memory is getting worse.My husband and I are under a lot of stress at the moment.I am thinking that I have to write things down in order to remember.

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I have to write things down myself and program things into my phone. I’m only 45 but have memory trouble from being hit in back of the head with a Cast iron skillet

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I’m 27 and I gotta write things down to remember. Don’t feel bad!

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Dont worry, do what’s best & easier 4 you!!! Certainly dont care what anyone else thinks. I went to my neuro surgeon complaining of my memory, after some testing he wanted 2 do a CT, come 2 find out I had a mini stroke, right where short term memory is. London story short. LISTEN 2 YOUR BODY, YOU KNOW IT BETTER THAN A ANYONE

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Oh dear God…That’s terrible…I hope who ever did that went to jail

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Yes she did for over a year and then the charges were dropped. I will always love my Sister but we barely talk because of it.

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That’s absolutely terrible…that could cause a brain hemmorage

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I was in the hospital for a week was told that I would not be able to walk again especially since I already have a Nerve and muscle disorder but I proved everyone wrong. That was in 06. The only good thing that came out of it was they discovered that I had a syst on my Thyroid.

I was told that I would be in a chair by 25 and then this happened after that. I’m 45 and still walking on my own

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Well God bless you…congratulations!! On keeping at it and walking and no wheel chair…

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I completely understand with the feeling of writing everything down. I can’t remember s…t. yes it causes marital problems… when I get time I’ll post everything I am all about when I get the time. Some of u will b shocked.

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I doubt I will be shocked…looking at my own life is a shocker enough for me ha!

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I feel u there

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Given that y’all are currently under a lot of stress, your memory issues sound “normal”. For the short term, I would make lists or use my phone reminders as needed. If the problem persists, then I would go my PCP and ask for a referral to the appropriate specialists. Sending prayers for God’s Peace.

I’m sorry… sounds tough

As the kids use to say “been there, done that, didn’t even get a T-shirt”.
I doubt if you saw it, but I totally lost 4 months of the memory of my life when my pain meds backfired. I was already having memory loss, but that threw me for a loop. I have fibromyalgia and some other things and the stress at home was earful, but the meds made it all worse in many ways, so o started looking for help. There are a lot of meds that make your memory worse, so first I talked to my doctor about taking me off some of them but there weren’t to many I could do without. I still have 24 different meds I take or use (chronic sinusitis, arthritis, intestinal problems, COPD and more) but he took me off what he thought was safe. I have to say it didn’t help much, so I kept looking. I came across something that actually changed my life. I can’t say it will do the same for anyone else but it made a huge difference for me. It didn’t happen overnight, but it happened and is still getting slowly but surely. It’s music with specific sound waves (Hz). There is more out there than I would have ever thought, everything from memory to blood issues to stress to headaches, sleep, depression, there is a multitude of help. It’s not the kind of music a lot of people like but it’s very easy to listen to. It’s soft and soothing. If you are interested go to your search on your phone or computer or whatever you get in the net with. Type in “free music for - then add whatever you want help with”. The search may bring up several things but go to one from UTube. You will find what you need there. They are free and you can start a library of the ones you like (or can tolerate). Listen to them first enough to see how you like them then put them in your library so you can have them whenever you want to listen to them. I listen to mine while I sleep.
I hope this will help you as much as it has helped me. My memory still isn’t what it use to be bu I’m 72 years old. The older we are the longer it takes to fix some things.
May you be blessed and have a wonderful life.

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BPD and memory is getting worse and worse too. My children think I have some kind of early onset of dementia and I’m not sure if I disagree with them anymore. I have a harder and harder time recalling the words I want to use in normal conversation in a timely fashion, in a way that doesn’t sound like it stunt the normal flow of the conversation. It’s irritating to me and the person who is trying to talk to me. And it’s worrisome. I’m not sure if it’s truly a great problem or if it’s just the major stress of the situation I find myself in.

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The type of memory loss is exactly where it starts. Dementia…no. Meds…maybe, but definitely the BPS. I don’t have BPS but my granddaughter does. It took years of doctors and therapist and even a couple of “in house” treatment centers to finally find it. I’m told it is very hard to diagnose. I haven’t been to a session with her for years, but she tells me that it is now skitzo BPD. I don’t know if that’s true, I only know hers has been the worst a person can have for years. She’s to the place now that she won’t go to any doctor or therapy for it. Instead she turned to drugs. It breaks my heart but the there is nothing I can do about it. She’s 32 years old and I did everything I could only to discover I wasn’t helping her, I was enabling her. Please be careful and do what your doctors or therapist tells you. I don’t want to think about another person going through the hell she has gone through and still is. BPD can cause you to be someone you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy. It sounds like you have it pretty much under control. As for the meds and your memory, talk to your doctor and see if you can come off of any that is causing your memory loss. You can even look the meds on line to find out if they effect your memory. That way when you ask the doctor you’ll already know which ones do. Considering the problem you have there may not be a choice. With the fibromyalgia I managed to stop a couple. I think one of the worst that caused memory (with me) was the opioids. My memory has begun to come back but I don’t know if it will ever be what it was. It started with not being able to think of words I wanted to. I still have a little of that, but mostly now I can not remember where I put things. My mother gave me a beautiful diamond solitaire ring for my 50 th birthday. I never took it off. Recently I was doing some heavy duty cleaning and I thought I better take it off for that. I hung it on an old music stand that I also meant to clean but I didn’t get to cleaning it that day. A good 2 weeks later I realized I wasn’t warring it and hard as I looked I could not remember where I had put it. I remembered hanging it on something but not where. It was driving me crazy. TODAY I walked in the kitchen and was standing at the bar and there it was, hanging on that old music stand that I still haven’t got cleaned. Not being able to remember is embarrassing and frustrating at the very least, but when you can’t remember something so very special it’s horrible. I write everything down (if course most of the time I can’t remember where I put what I wrote it on or where I put it) if I don’t write it down it don’t get done. The part of not remembering a word I want to put in a sentence is better but I still have some problems. I use to have a very good vocabulary, now there are times I sound like a 4 year old. 🥴. I also start to go after something in another room and either come back with nothing because I got there and couldn’t remember what I went after or come back with something totally different. I still don’t know why I do that, it’s usually something I don’t even need where I am. 😂. Life can be pretty frustrating but as long as we’re breathing there is still hope. Maybe science will figure out how to fix all our “mistakes”, but I’m not holding my breath. I haven’t looked for any music for BPD but I think I have seen some about waking up the brain, retraining the brain, reprogramming your subconscious, things like that, even some just to help calm the brain And the body. I wish you all the blessings there are and that you get a handle on your problem. It was nice of you to say what you did about that part of what I wrote. Thank you. I’ll be thinking about you and wishing you well. ☺️💐

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I went through a time that my memory was getting better, now it’s beginning to fail again. I fight it everyday and will keep fighting it. I tend to believe this yo-yo effect is caused by stress. My husband and I are raising our 8 year old great granddaughter and since schooled we are having to teach her at home. Trying to keep up with all that she has to do, now at home, has put my stress level through the roof. At the end of January my oldest son became seriously ill. As time went on he developed All the symptoms of the virus that killing so many. By March he had lost 60 and could barely walk or even get out of a chair. He was so week that he could hardly turn a door non. I was terrified we were going to lose him. He had pneumonia but was told it cleared up after taking medication. When a doctor finally sent him to the hospital the found he had congestive heart failure and fluid in his lungs. After treatment at the hospital he seemed to be getting better for a few days then he started down again. In time and better medical care he began to slowly improve. He goes for a heart catheter Friday. He’s still not to what he was and I don’t think he ever will be. He’s 55 years old and has so much life ahead of him.
Our granddaughter is homeless and I worry about her constantly. Her problems seem to keep getting worse as each day comes. There are other stresses as well, but too many to list. I’d be writing this time tomorrow. I will say this, Stress will kill you‼️ I often wonder how much stress has played a part in all my medical problems over the years. I’ve lived with very high stress levels since I was 8 years old and as I get older it only seems to get worse. I’m good at adapting to situations, but there are some things that I can’t control so I can’t adapt very well, I just keep my worry and heartache inside even though I know it hurts my health but no body wants to hear My hard times because they have enough of their own to deal with and I certainly can’t blame them. The shape our country is in, the world for that matter is pulling us all into an abyss that I can’t see how we will ever climb out of and I can’t see how our children, grandchildren, great grandchildren or any generation that follows will ever have a life of anything but sorrow or worse. I know it sounds selfish, but I’m glad I won’t be here to see it.
Blessings from above to everyone, be safe, stay home, love each other and love yourself. Think positive thoughts, negative ones only bring us all down. Pray to whoever you feel is your god/creator that we come through this to a better tomorrow. Lift on this little blue marble can still and is worth living.